Facebook and Texting

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own.  No apologies or excuses.  No one to lean on, rely on, or blame.  The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.  This is the day your life really begins.  ~Bob Moawad
 
One of the greatest challenges for people in the era of cell phones and internet access is managing the
're-activity' muscle we all seem to have.

Stay in control of your world

It is almost that these two powerful tools have become like remote controls for our emotions and actions, and the killer is, it is controlled by anyone who has our number or is a FB friend or friend of a friend or friend of a friend of a friend of a .... you get the idea.

The reality is they are to stay, until the next technological advance or we get sick of the lack of real conversation and human contact. So how can we deal with this need to check, this addiction to participate and be involved?

Here are some ideas:

• Cell phiones off at night and left inthe kitchen
• Don't take it with you if you are not having a good day (someone else will have theirs if you need to ring home)
• Agree with your close friends not o pass on gossip 
• If you do receive anything offensive or threatening or hurtful show a responsible adult
• Decide to respond in person or wait a day. This takes the power out of the effect the person may have assumed they had by sending it
• If you must respond, be overly positive and kind as if you hadn't received it
• Set aside times to check info
• Use a land line or give out your land line number to anyone not your best friend
• Get anew SIM card or change your number
• Choose to respond to all txt 'later' -never right away. That way you are in control not the phone or those sending the txt.

With FB you must adjust your privacy settings to only immediate friends or family, able to see or post to your wall. And if someone tells you or shows you stuff someone else has put on that is offensive or hurtful, show an adult, print it of for proof, then carry on as if you have not seen it. It will take the sting out, just respond to people, no I haven't seen it and I don't care. Truly be ignorant!

Look after your self, control your own life and emotions -chose good friends you respect and who respect you.

Take care -laugh lots

Richard
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